Men not dating
You’re making your intentions extremely clear, and that can put you in a really vulnerable position.
The possibility of rejection only increases if the girl you’re asking has no idea that you’re interested in her.
I’ve gone dutch or even let the girl pay, but that’s only ever happened once we’ve gone on a decent number of dates or we’re already in an exclusive relationship.
I wouldn’t let her pay for the first date even if she did offer, because I wouldn’t want her to think I’m cheap, or that I asked her out on a date I couldn’t afford. At the end of the day, if I really do like her and we vibe well, I don’t mind paying. The way guys and girls interact and display their attraction to one another has changed. I don’t think there’s anything wrong with sliding in the DM’s, or letting somebody know you’re interested in them through a few Instagram likes.
Personally, I hate planning, and thus, I’m terrible at it, which makes me even more stressed out. I ask what type of food she’d like to eat, or what activities she enjoys doing, and the response is always, “Anything is fine with me”. Some might think that if a man asks a woman out, he should have a plan for what they will do.I want to vibe with you, or at least think I could vibe with you, on a deeper level, if I’m going to ask you on a real date.The fact that going on real dates is so rare these days should make the girl I do take out feel extra special.I don’t have money to waste on a girl I’m not even sure I like yet, because there’s a slight chance she won’t be worth that sort of investment.I may be physically attracted to a girl, but if I already know that she’s not somebody I’d want to be in a real relationship with, why waste my money and time? Those are the girls who I ask to just come over and hangout.